Courage is..

Choosing wisely life’s path;

Trusting your inner voice,

Even when dear ones disagree. 

Standing up for yourself,

Recognizing your worth

And never apologizing for being you;

Certain you deserve the best. 

Holding on patiently to the string of hope;

Though frazzled it may have become,

Even amidst voices harsh.  

Walking away from disrespect;

Moving forward in baby steps,

Cherishing the ones that hold you up

And the music that stirs in your heart.

Accepting the bitter truth of being a mere option

To one you considered  priority;

But still smile and move on; head held high.      

                       

Letting go of the mistakes;

Instead of wallowing in regret 

And building a great future from the lessons;

Reminding yourself ‘it’s always too early to quit’.

Following not the trodden path

But blazing your own trail,

Amidst all the clutter and beyond all obstacles;

Not on mere obligation but out of a great vision!
                Copyright @AlphiJ

Of Manipulative Relationships

It surfaces as a tendency to force upon us the so called good opinions in a way compelling to act based on their thinking pattern. Too often controlling people come across under the guise of “I’m just trying to help you.” It is all about good will ,but the way it is delivered can take away hundred years of happiness unless the receiver is that experienced and strong. It’s very empowering to disconnect from these kind of people.

In case you are interersted, read more here.

http://www.hindu.com/mag/2008/11/02/stories/2008110250090400.htm

Of Cousins and Related World

Isn't there a beauty in handwritten cards, letters et al?
Received long back; I have preserved those like a treasure!



Isn't this lovely?



Being the daughter

What if the Father's mistakes affect the daughter as well? She would in all likelihood complain about the failures. But when the daughter is really happy for herself and knows that most of her traits are from the father, she could only be grateful for who she is. Especially when those mistakes have helped her learn life's greatest lessons.

An intimate relationship

"An intimate relationship does not banish loneliness. Only when we are comfortable with who we are can we truly function independently in a healthy way, can we truly function within a relationship. Two halves do not make a whole when it comes to a healthy relationship: it takes two wholes."

- Patricia Fry

Don't play small!

"Don't play small! Stand up! Take charge! You are doing yourself and others a disservice by catering your actions towards how you think others will react. Instead, just be yourself, exactly as you are. When you are simply being yourself you will attract everything that is in alignment with who you truly are. You will be shocked to see who drops away. Their absence will leave a space for new and amazing relationships to enter your life. Just be you, and let everyone else do what they may. You are not what others believe you to be, you are what you know you are and nothing else. Just be. You will be rewarded for your courage with a life that reflects your true essence instead of an invented identity created to "please others". Ahhhh, doesn't it feel good to just be!?"

 Jackson Kiddard  

How I know..

Her eyes lit up when someone enquired whether I am her sister. I took it as the confirmation that she values me very much.

The tone

It was something great that has to be conveyed with enthusiasm. But then, I wondered why there was a  tone of apathy .Well,nevermind.

Words of Wisdom

1. Telling the truth is sometimes the toughest thing in the world, not because of the consequences but because you foresee the expression of someone you love.

2. What about a mute option for humans that can be controlled by the listener? Put on mute when they say something you don't want to hear.( especially the ones intended to make you feel two feet smaller, so that they feel better.) Do you envision the scenario?

3. Want to look 10 years older than your age, instantly? Follow this simple tip. Take time to brood over negative elements and mistakes in your life. Or go beyond emotionally draining trivial issues which takes you off your goals.

4. One's angst is very personal and so, except for cases inevitable, share it only with those who feel one with you.

The Price.

"good to hear that you have taken that one bold step which very few(like me :D) take.. as usual it does not come without cost"
( yes, it does)

"........... ........ .........
u will do well ....and you will come out bolder and happier...and one day you will look back and smile. Be cheerful and look challenges in its eye."

An e-mail can sometimes make your day!

Random Quote

Sometimes people do not see you at all, only their interpretation of what someone like you means to them. If you base your values and your meanings on someone else's point of view, you are merely trading in your own uniqueness and become imprisoned in their preconceived notions and views. You are letting them define you. And in most cases they don't know you well enough to define you.

"It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not"

Maybe

Has anyone found her smile?
That she lost in the midst of a travel.
I would have asked for your's;
Had it suited her face.

Little can I explain;
How she lost it and where;
Be sure it has a sunshine;
And a dream priceless;
That great ones notice without fail.

I brought those dreams to my God;
He knows it all;through and through,
I am sure he will mend it for her;
To bring back the joy of her feet,
And the singing of the morning bird.

(This one can be interpreted any way you like)
       Copyright @AlphiJ

Statement of Innocence.

I hereby declare that I am neither a good writer nor a good reader.This is issued based on the concept that writing skill depends much on the reading habit. I think the cartoon strip on the left gives an idea of what I read regularly. Nevertheless, I have this feeling that if I don't come up with this space, the world will miss out on my brilliant ideas and views. So I have created one and I hope I could jot down something once in a while.

Now don't misunderstand that I don't make any attempts to improve . On a sunny day, with much enthusiasm , I bought this humorous 'five- part trilogy' involving Arthur Dent and his friend Ford Prefect. Left untouched, it now takes it's honorable seat in a conspicuous place in my room. Sigh..My only relief comes from my belief that the anticipation of laughter can also produce similar effects as laughter. The benefits may not be as good as laughter, however it is well accepted as a Stress Reduction Exercise.(if you don't believe me you can test it for yourself)

What I imply from the beginning is that if you are yawning now,it is not my mistake. You can blame the twist and turn of life that brought you here. If that quirk happens again we will meet, till then Adieu.